Monday, 2 November 2026

How to Respond When People Throw Wrenches During Change


Change initiatives rarely fail because of flawed strategies or poor execution. They fail because of human behavior: what people do when they feel threatened or at risk of losing status, control, or relevance. A senior leader withholds resources from another team. A project team member hoards information about transition status. Each move undermines the initiative's success. When combined with others, they can derail it.

These are the wrenches people throw during high-stakes change. They can be hard to spot and address because they are often covert, uncoordinated, and unpredictable. Without quick and effective responses, dysfunction grows, and plans unravel. Left unchecked, the self-interested behaviors become cultural norms, and the downward spiral to failure accelerates.


Why Do People Throw Wrenches During Change?

Change initiatives typically start well. The leader’s vision of a better future is clear and widely supported. The kick-off builds momentum, and work begins. Before long, people piece together their relative position in the post-change organization.

 

Employees view disruptions through the lens of personal gain or loss. What will this mean for my role, status, influence, or security? As the answers become clearer, emotions flare, which drives actions intended to improve their position.

 

Four forces explain self-interested behavior:  

 

 Self-preservation: People try to protect the status, certainty, freedom, camaraderie, and confidence they have.


  Power: People seek the capacity to influence outcomes. They do so through formal authority or personal influence. Change can threaten existing power sources or create opportunities for new ones.


Politics: People maneuver to influence those who define the future ways of working. Alliances, favor 

trading, and even rumors can modify outcomes.

 

Emotions: Anxiety, fear, frustration, anger, and contempt can harm colleagues and jeopardize the initiative. 

When emotions surface, self-protection outweighs concerns for others and their organization.

 

All four forces can be in play at any point in an initiative, so leaders need to anticipate them. Understanding what people perceive they will lose helps you predict likely self-interested behaviors and decide how to best address them.

 


What Wrenches Do People Throw?

 

The most common self-interested behaviors vary in their intensity and the risk they pose to an organization. They fall into four categories, based on strategic intent and level of disruption: Influencing, Conspiring, Bullying, and Sabotaging.

 

 

The tactics are more extreme as you move to the right of the continuum. Influencing and conspiring are about angling for position, whereas bullying and sabotaging behaviors are about aggression to seize control.

 

These behaviors also evolve as the initiative progresses, because each phase of change reveals more about what people stand to gain or lose. During the planning phase, there are few details to analyze. Preparation activities such as testing, training, and day-in-the-life exercises begin to clarify future conditions. The full picture emerges after the launch when people live and feel their new roles. The clearer the personal consequences become, the stronger the emotional response, and the greater the likelihood of more aggressive behavior.

 


How to Respond When Wrenches Appear?

 

When a political maneuver or power play catches us off guard, we often become spectators instead of responders. Silence, or a defensive reaction, can strengthen the behavior and increase its damage.

 

A consistent, stepped process, designed to interpret people’s behavior, helps you neutralize self-interested tactics. The Four-Step Response offers a simple approach to recognizing and responding to political maneuvers and power plays: Observe, Assess, Select, and Deliver.

 

1.       Observe:  Notice what the person says and does. If someone says, “I’ll support your region if you support mine when resources are allocated,” they are favor trading.

 

2.       Assess: Identify the emotion that may be driving the behavior. Anxiety and anger call for different responses. Anxiety signals worry about uncertainty, whereas anger signals hostility over a perceived injustice or error.


3.       Select: Choose the response best suited to the behavior and the circumstances around it. Consider the person’s role, the emotion they are feeling, and where the behavior surfaced.


4.       Deliver: Give your response, then pause for a reaction. The behavior may stop. If not, their response will indicate your next move, whether to hold, engage or escalate.

 

If, for example, a team member repeatedly withholds information, an effective response might be to name the behavior directly: “The testing team needs the data we agreed to share. Without it, testing will be delayed. What is preventing you from providing it?” Their response may reveal a technical obstacle or a fear about losing control. Both guide how to proceed.

Following these steps helps you spot self-interested behavior early, identify the emotion behind it, and respond in ways that protect your credibility, relationships, and results.


We All Throw Wrenches

It’s easy to view people who withhold information, spread rumours, or blame and attack as villains. The reality is that we all throw wrenches when change threatens us. It's normal, and it’s human. Knowing what you personally stand to gain and lose can help you manage your behavior and respond better to others' actions.

You can’t control the wrenches thrown or the people who throw them. You can control how you respond. Observe the behavior, assess the emotion driving it, select the best option, and deliver it with purpose to protect the initiative’s progress and results.


Tuesday, 6 January 2026

What 3 Words Will Help You Succeed in 2026?

This is my thirteenth year of using Chris Brogan's "My Three Words” planning exercise to achieve my annual goals. It helps me take stock of the past year, set goals for the next, and identify what I need to do differently to earn them.

Chris’s approach is a simple and effective way to stay focused on your priorities as you manage your commitments and the distractions vying for your time. Here are the three steps you follow after setting your goals:

1. Identify how you must think and behave to achieve your goals. 
2. Select three words that will remind you to use these enablers. 
3. Display these words where you will see them daily (e.g., phone screen, monitor, mirror).


In last year’s post, I said, “This year is a big one for me.” It was. My goals were a mix of professional and personal aspirations. I committed to writing the first draft of my next book by December 31, to sleep better, and to appreciate my experiences, rather than speed through them. The three words I chose for 2025 were Daily, Sleep, and Savour. 



Daily
was about reaping the benefits of consistent effort. Specifically, I focused on daily writing, exercise, and a healthy diet. My mantra was “consistent action,” which pushed me to write, work out, and eat well daily.

I worked on my new book every day, and submitted my manuscript a month early, which felt great. I went overboard with exercise in the first six months, working out seven days a week. It may sound admirable, but I didn’t allow my body to recover, which caused injuries. I snapped out of this habit after watching a Mark Wahlberg TikTok clip where he said, “I am training smart now…I put as much emphasis on rest and recovery as on intensive training.” I dropped to five days a week and am injury-free.

I learned that the cost of regimentation is flexibility, variety, and excitement. As the year progressed, I tried to imagine living the rest of my life following rigid routines. I felt like a robot on a mission, trading spontaneity and adventure for accomplishment. Having a “no misses” mindset took some of the life out of living. I realize that goal achievement is a dynamic process that flexes with your changing environment.

Sleep was about improving the quality of my rest. I track my sleep scores nightly on my Garmin watch, which are rarely good. I didn’t know there were so many ways to have a poor night’s sleep. Most mornings, I read reports highlighting poor REM or deep sleep, awake time, or an imbalanced sleep pattern.

I pounced on this goal on January 1, adopting the regimens recommended by experts like Peter Attia (Outlive) and Andrew Huberman (Huberman Lab podcast). The good news is that I improved my nightly average sleep score from 69.0 to 71.7. The less-than-good news is that each score was a mystery. Some mornings I felt great after a poor score and vice versa. With little correlation, I didn’t know what to improve.

My big learning was that regardless of the routines I followed – consistent sleeping and waking times, no caffeine after 11 am, melatonin before bed, etc. – stress remained a disruptor. Working through problems or worrying about them decimated my REM and deep sleep scores. I learned a good lesson about fully assessing opportunities and taking on too much.

Savouring my experiences was harder than it sounds. Focusing on the present while multiple deadlines loomed in the future was a constant challenge. My son, Sam, introduced me to a self-awareness app called “Waking Up,” which helped keep me grounded in the present. When I was stressed, I used the app less, which reinforced my future-based thoughts at the expense of my attention and appreciation. I have more work to do in this area.

My goals for 2026 are focused on publishing my next book. When People Throw Wrenches is scheduled for an early October release. The three words I have chosen to realize my vision are Instinct, Circle and Pause.

Instinct is about following my gut throughout the editing and design process. There are many editing, layout and promotion options, and, just like a high-stakes change initiative, it is easy to lose focus on what you set out to do. Decisions have to feel right as well as factually be right.

Circle refers to the circle of influence I have through the publishing process. There will be restrictions outside of my control that I will need to roll with. As the Stoic Epictetus said, “Make the best use of what is in your power, and take the rest as it naturally happens.” I am conscious of how much time and emotion I invest in things I can’t control. Not this year, if I am successful.

Pause refers to creating space between new information and my response to it. The isolation that comes with writing was making my beliefs feel fixed, which is ironic, given that my book is about managing behaviour during change. I must switch back to openness and possibility as I partner with an expert publishing team. Their creativity, guidance, and changes will produce the book I aspired to write

The My Three Words exercise helped me achieve my 2025 goals, deepen my self-awareness, and uncover behavioural lessons. It has also helped me define my three goals for 2026 and how I must think and act to accomplish them. A bonus benefit is that I am revved up and ready for another big year.

If you are looking for a way to set yourself up for success in 2026, the My Three Words process might work for you.

Phil


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